{"id":789,"date":"2013-05-11T12:49:54","date_gmt":"2013-05-11T12:49:54","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/copticocc.org\/site\/?p=789"},"modified":"2024-09-20T19:08:06","modified_gmt":"2024-09-20T16:08:06","slug":"%d9%85%d9%82%d8%a7%d9%84-%d8%a7%d9%84%d8%a3%d9%86%d8%a8%d8%a7-%d8%a5%d8%b1%d9%85%d9%8a%d8%a7-%d8%a7%d9%84%d8%ad%d9%83%d9%85%d8%a9-4-%d8%a3%d8%ae%d8%a8%d8%a7%d8%b1-%d8%a7%d9%84%d9%8a%d9%88","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/copticocc.org\/en\/%d9%85%d9%82%d8%a7%d9%84-%d8%a7%d9%84%d8%a3%d9%86%d8%a8%d8%a7-%d8%a5%d8%b1%d9%85%d9%8a%d8%a7-%d8%a7%d9%84%d8%ad%d9%83%d9%85%d8%a9-4-%d8%a3%d8%ae%d8%a8%d8%a7%d8%b1-%d8%a7%d9%84%d9%8a%d9%88\/","title":{"rendered":"Wisdom 4"},"content":{"rendered":"

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In the previous article, we covered the difference between wisdom and intelligence, between wisdom and knowledge, also presenting some important aspects in which man\u2019s wisdom is manifest, such as words, time and management. After that we presented two wise characters, Solomon the wise and Joseph the righteous.<\/span><\/strong>
\nToday we shall continue our discussion on wisdom in terms of silence and speech.<\/span><\/strong><\/h2>\n

The Wise Is a Good Listener:<\/span><\/strong>
\nTalking about silence drags us to a very important attribute of the wise person, namely, being a good listener. It is said: \u201cThe knowledgeable is a good speaker, but the wise is a good listener\u201d. And again: \u201cSpeak slowly, but think swiftly\u201d. For when man pauses before speaking, he can think more profoundly, and can evaluate all issues before handing others advice and guidance.<\/span><\/strong>
\nSo becoming more of a listener than a talker is the most important quality, which man should train to acquire along life\u2019s journey. Thus it is said: \u201cLet every man be swift to hear, slow to speak, slow to wrath\u2026\u201d<\/span><\/strong><\/h2>\n

The Wise Is Aware of What Should Be Said:<\/span><\/strong>
\nScripture also says: \u201cWhoever guards his mouth and tongue, Keeps his soul from troubles.\u201d Thus when the wise person speaks, words preserve him, because he understands what he says, as he speaks at the right time, \u201cIn the mouth of a fool is a rod of pride, but the lips of the wise will preserve them.\u201d<\/span><\/strong>
\nFor many tribulations that man experiences are caused by his words, and as a result, he loses his peace and tranquility.<\/span><\/strong><\/h2>\n

A Wise Person Does Not Rush To Speak Nor Speak Abundantly:<\/span><\/strong>
\nTherefore, Wise Solomon describes the man who speaks hastily as a little lower than a fool. \u201cDo you see a man hasty in his words? There is more hope for a fool than for him.\u201d<\/span><\/strong>
\nBesides, he considers a multitude of words as imprudence, for it is one of the qualities of a fool: \u201cA fool also multiplies words.\u201d<\/span><\/strong><\/h2>\n

So Solomon warned of a multitude of words because it leads to sin, saying: \u201cIn the multitude of words sin is not lacking, But he who restrains his lips is wise.\u201d<\/span><\/strong><\/h2>\n

For how many persons exceedingly regretted their uttered words! While others lost their lives as a result of their words!! For example, Scripture tells us that, upon King Saul\u2019s death, a young man hastened to gladden and report to King David that he killed Saul, so David ordered his execution, punishing him because he killed King Saul, \u201cThen David called one of the young men and said, \u201cGo near, and execute him!\u201d And he struck him so that he died. So David said to him, \u201cYour blood is on your own head, for your own mouth has testified against you\u2026\u201d<\/span><\/strong>
\nI once read a nice tale about silence:<\/span><\/strong><\/h2>\n

Once upon a time, three men were sentenced to death by the guillotine, one was a theologian, the other a lawyer and the third a physicist. At the moment of execution, the theologian came forward, putting his head under the guillotine, when he was asked: \u201cWould you like to say a final word before dying?\u201d<\/span><\/strong>
\n\u201cGod is going to save me\u201d, he answered. Then the guillotine came down, but stopped just before touching the theologian\u2019s head! People were astonished saying, \u201cRelease the theologian, God has ruled!\u201d Thus the theologian was delivered.<\/span><\/strong>
\nThen it was the lawyer\u2019s turn, and likewise he was asked: \u201cDo you have something to say before dying?\u201d<\/span><\/strong>
\n\u201cI don\u2019t know God as the theologian does, but I believe more in justice, which will save me\u201d, he answered.<\/span><\/strong>
\nAnd the same thing happened again, the guillotine stopped just before touching his head, and the people were amazed for the second time and said: \u201cRelease the lawyer, justice has been served.\u201d So likewise, the lawyer was delivered.<\/span><\/strong>
\nEventually, it was the physicist\u2019s turn, and he was asked the same question, \u201cWould you like to say something before dying?\u201d Then he answered: \u201cI neither know God as the theologian, nor justice like the lawyer. However, there is a knot in the guillotine\u2019s rope that prevents it from falling properly!!\u201d So they looked up, and actually saw the knot that had obstructed the guillotine from coming down, and fixed the guillotine, so it came down and chopped off the physicist\u2019s head!<\/span><\/strong>
\nNow the question is: \u201cWhat would have happened had the physicist held his silence?!!\u201d<\/span><\/strong><\/h2>\n

The Wise is Aware of the Significance of Words:<\/span><\/strong>
\nWords have a great impact, for either they justify man or condemn him. It is told that someone lent his friend some money, but the borrower wished to avoid repaying the loan, so he denied borrowing it. The lender resorted to a judge, who asked the debtor, who again denied the transaction, so the judge asked the creditor to go and fetch a handful of dust from the location where he had lent him the money! The creditor was amazed, but he obeyed the judge and went off.<\/span><\/strong>
\nA short while later, the judge asked the debtor: \u201cDo you think he has arrived there or not yet?\u201d<\/span><\/strong>
\n\u201cNo, I don\u2019t think so, because the location is too far away\u201d, he answered spontaneously. Therefore, the judge believed the creditor, and justice was served, as he ruled that the money be returned.<\/span><\/strong><\/h2>\n

Concerning the serious impact of words, and how words can justify or condemn, it is said: \u201cFor by your words you will be justified, and by your words you will be condemned.\u201d Plus, it is written in the Parable of the talents that a master gave his servants some talents to trade and gain, after which he traveled, and when he returned he found out that one of the servants had buried his talent in the ground, accusing his master of being unfair, because he demands the talents in addition to interest, then the master said to him: \u201d \u2018You wicked and lazy servant, you knew that I reap where I have not sown, and gather where I have not scattered seed\u2026\u2019 \u201c.<\/span><\/strong><\/h2>\n

A wise person deliberates well before uttering:<\/span><\/strong>
\nSo, a wise man thinks profoundly before speaking, for the words that are spoken can\u2019t be retrieved, nor can we change their impact on others\u2019 souls.<\/span><\/strong><\/h2>\n

Once, there was a little boy who used to get angry often and to hurt others with his spiteful words. One day, his father gave him a bag of nails and told him: \u201cEvery time you insult someone, hammer a nail into the garden fence.\u201d<\/span><\/strong>
\nOn the first day, the little boy hammered 37 nails into the garden fence, and he tried to train himself to control his words, so that he might not deform the garden fence, so the number of nails was reduced gradually day after day.<\/span><\/strong>
\nOne day, it came to pass that the lad didn\u2019t hammer any nail into the fence, so he went to tell his father that he no longer needed to hammer any nails. Then his father told him: \u201cFrom now on, remove a nail for every day passing without your uttering hurtful words against anybody.\u201d<\/span><\/strong><\/h2>\n

Eventually, many days later, the lad told his father that he had removed all the nails from the fence. Then the father accompanied his son to the fence, and said: \u201cWell done, son! However, look at the holes you have left behind on the fence, it will never be as it was before!!\u201d<\/span><\/strong><\/h2>\n

When a dispute or an argument takes place, and you insult others with harsh words, you cause a deep wound just like those holes that were seen by the little boy, and you will never be able to fix their impact, so it is said: \u201cPeople may forget what you have told them, yet they will never forget how you made them feel\u201d.<\/span><\/strong><\/h2>\n

Train yourself to listen:<\/span><\/strong>
\nIf you want to be a wise person, you should train yourself to be a good listener, for in listening amply, man learns several qualities that increase his wisdom, such as: deep thought, patience, sound judgment of all matters, perceiving the value of silence and the impact of every word you speak.<\/span><\/strong><\/h2>\n

Besides, a wise person neither remains silent when he should talk, nor talks when he should remain silent, which will be tackled in another article.<\/span><\/strong><\/h2>\n

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